Since we’re discussing sexuality this week and masculinity next week, and since we just read CJ Pascoe’s “Dude, You’re a F__,” I’m posting performance poet Guante’s poem “10 Ways to Respond to the Phrase ‘Man Up.'”
In his poem, Guante explores the way that telling men to “man up” reinforces harmful gender stereotypes about men and masculinity that are also built on the devaluation of femininity. And consider how telling men to just “grow a pair” also actively discourages men from expressing vulnerability or establishing intimacy, either with other men or with the women in their lives – because such behaviors quickly bring their heterosexual masculinity into question.
“10 Responses to the Phrase ‘Man Up'” – Guante